You, as mentor, may also have some unrealistic expectations of mentoring.

• Others will accept the offender as you. In fact, you may have to help your mentee cope with rejection.
  
• Your mentee can make good decisions. Past decisions have not all been good and you cannot assume they will make good decisions in the future.
  
• The mentee will communicate with you outside prison the same as they communicated when inside.
  
• You will not have all the answers. You should not let them expect you to have all the answers.
  
• Mentee will take all your suggestions.
  
• Your mentee will know how to keep appointments.
  
• Your mentee has “normal” thinking patterns.
  
• Being in chapel will assure them of success.

You helped your mentee arrange a job interview. You feel you have done all you need to assure their success.